Monday, August 14, 2006

Can you really find your soulmate after you're married?

Strange question I know but I just saw a movie (a pretty bad one mind you) that is based on that very question. And though I didnt like the movie it does make you think.

In the movie two couples who have been married a few years start having problems. One couple because the wife is more successful than the husband and is not able to devote any time to him. The second couple I couldnt quite understand. The husband is any girl's dream partner - sweet, funny, romantic, successful and completely in love with her. Yet his wife is not happy because she is looking for something more (what this something is is never explained in the movie..but since I'm not reviewing the movie here I will overlook that). Anyway so the husband from couple 1 and the wife from couple 2 meet a few times coincidentally and become friends in an attempt to help each other salvage their marriages. In the midst of this they discover that they have infact falling in love with each other.

Apparently the premise of the movie is that you shouldnt marry for compromise, and I cant disagree with this opinion. However, is it really possible to meet someone who is your soulmate once you are married. Don't you just stop looking. I know I am being naive and that many people have affairs outside their marriage. But I've never thought of these affairs as true love or finding your soulmate. I just find the idea so hard to grasp. To fall so in love with someone else when you have been in a happy (albeit with a few issues) marriage for so long - the idea doesnt make any sense.

Firstly I have never believed in the concept of soulmates. But to those who do, dont they believe it is in your destiny to meet your soulmate. Why would destiny play such a cruel joke then where other hearts are broken?

I suppose I am over analyzing what is of course just a movie, but still, I do wonder if it is possible. And all I can say is I hope and pray that something like that never happens to me because I cant think of a scarier situation. And if what happens in the movie could happen in real life, I do wonder how you know that someone is your soulmate before you marry them. How do u know he is the one? You can never be sure right? What a scary thought

Thursday, August 03, 2006


A few days ago a friend of mine said that every person is affected deeply by some kind of music. But that music may not have the same effect on another person. Though I did agree with her I couldn’t quite figure out what feeling she was talking about, but decided to pay more attention from next time. During the days after, I never heard anything that made me feel that way.

And then yesterday, I heard two completely different songs that made the hair on my arms stand up. I had heard both songs before but I guess I had never thought about how music affects me so hadnt paid attention to how I felt. But did I feel it! When you feel a song that way, you can almost feel something in your heart, dramatic as it may sound.

The first song was from a hindi soundtrack…called Jiya Dhadak Dhadak. What an amaaazing song. I had tears in my eyes and I don’t know why. The words in it are just how I would describe love. Tujhe dekh dekh sona, tujhe dekh kar hai jagna. Mujhko yeh zindagaani sang tere bitani. Tujhme basi hai meri jaan. So simple yet so wonderfully sweet. And the way it was sung…wooow!

The second song was from an album called ‘Vishwa Vinayaka’ and was called Ganeshaya dhimayi. Again…goosebumps! I’ve always loved mantras like that but this song just kind of floated into me and I couldn’t stop listening to it.

Two such different songs, yet the same effect. I cant scientifically explain the effects of music, but I’ve just been proven that there is magic in music. Magic that can lift spirits. When you are feeling low, doesn’t it sometimes feel that the song that came on the radio seemed to know exactly how you felt? But how? And listening to the song does burden the load on your heart. I cant explain it any other way apart from Magic!